Comments on: How Does One Feel One’s Gender?

By: misingtale

misingtale — Wed, 24 Jul 2024 07:34:29 +0000

@yourautisticlife Thank you for writing this I am also trying to figure myself out and feel similarly confused.

By: Bernie Independently Does It

Bernie Independently Does It — Tue, 09 Jul 2024 02:50:41 +0000

In reply to Bernie Independently Does It. @yourautisticlife While it's more complicated than this, a good start in deciding if you truly don't have a gender identity is to ask yourself how you feel and what you do if someone accidentally mistakes you for (in your case) a female.There are plenty of words for the different nuanced shades of agender. I'm personally cassgender, because I find gender to be completely irrelevant to my sense of self and how I behave.

By: Bernie Independently Does It

Bernie Independently Does It — Tue, 09 Jul 2024 02:14:49 +0000

@yourautisticlife It sounds like you don't have a gender identity. Most people have one of some sort, but it's more common from what I've seen for us autistics to not have one than for allistics. It's subtly different from feeling like you have no gender, and quite different from feeling like you are neutrally gendered or androgynous. It's kind of hard to talk about because a lot of discussions assume that you do have a gender identity and don't take the possibility of not into account.

By: Alan Langford

Alan Langford — Mon, 08 Jul 2024 18:25:42 +0000

@yourautisticlife You nailed it. I'm predominantly male, but there is a significantly large set of my behaviours that are distinctly not male. "Hanging out with the guys" often makes me feel like an alien who got beamed into an alternate universe. Still, there is nothing to make me feel like identifying as female.Thus: gender is a spectrum.

By: yourautisticlife

yourautisticlife — Mon, 08 Jul 2024 15:13:58 +0000

In reply to Dimestore Diamond . Maybe my feelings will evolve too.

By: Dimestore Diamond

Mon, 08 Jul 2024 14:38:48 +0000

@yourautisticlife That's an interesting question. Naturally, I can only speak on my own behalf, but I do feel my gender. The key word is "feel".Thinking back to when I thought I was a guy, I'm not sure if I ever really felt my gender. Once I understood I'm non-binary, I've taken a deep dive into it. I've found the place in me that is my gender. The feeling itself is beyond words but there are terms that I've found that seem to fit. I feel them and there's no other way to describe it. My gender is fluid and sometimes I feel the masculine, but most of the time I don't. If it's "on", it usually has a very specific gendered feeling that's not masculine or feminine. I've found the term maverique fits it the best. Then there are times when I don't feel it at all, or I might feel that the place where it's supposed to be is blank. That's when it's genderblank or even agender.Overall, nonbinary is the best term, followed by genderqueer.#NonBinary #GenderQueer #GenderFluid #maverique #GenderBlank #agender #ActuallyAutistic