Your Autistic Life: The Ruminations of an Autistic Enby
This is my blog. I masked my autism for the first 50 years of my life. I discovered in March 2023 that I am, in fact, autistic. Prior to this time, my life was mostly okay, but did not make much sense overall. Since my self-diagnosis, my life makes much more sense.
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You Don’t Understand Free Speech
I know my title is provocative. It is intentional. The law is one of my interests. At the same time, I’m not a lawyer. I’m merely better informed than the average American. Let me be clear that I’m going to talk about the right of free speech embodied in the Bill of Rights of the…
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Invisible Minorities Are Vocal About Their Identities With Good Reason
It is because the majority tends to forget that these invisible minorities exist. I recently came across a “bash the vegan” joke that got me thinking about the issue at hand here. I’m paraphrasing, but the joke was: The toughest part of being a vegan is keeping it to yourself. I think there are several…
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On The Importance Of Teaching Neurodivergence
In my view, it would allow us to handle better the friction that occurs when meshing different communication styles. As I was writing about the sources of friction between my ex-wife and I, it occurred to me that knowing about neurodivergence would have been extremely useful to us. It is unclear whether it would have…
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Dating Advice For Autistic People: I Cannot Recommend Hiki
I cannot recommend Hiki for anyone, alas. Here is what I wrote in the fediverse soon after I joined Hiki: Hiki does not seem to be set in a way that readily allows me to find the people who would like someone like me. For me, this is reminiscent of Tinder. My experience on Tinder…
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My Life As A Porcelain Dog: Part 1
In what follows, I am going to describe what it means to be someone’s porcelain dog. This article is for paying subscribers only, for a number of reasons. One is that I’m going to go into very intimate details of my life. Another one is that I don’t want the persons I talk about here…
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At 50 I’m Realizing I’m Not Made To Live Alone
Most of the time, these days, I live alone. My mental health is suffering from it. I initially wrote this article in March 2023. I’m republishing it here with minimal edits. I’ll provide an update at the end. This is a realization that came to me only very recently… during the past few weeks, actually. I…
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Five Years In Remission
I entered remission five years ago on February 11th 2021. It’s been a wild ride, to say the least. Ultimately, everybody’s journey through cancer is their own. If you’re a cancer survivor too, your journey is not my journey, and my journey is not your journey, no matter how similar they may be. Some people…
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Taimi: An LGBTQ+ Dating and Chat App
Taimi became my go-to dating app, but it did not last. All dating apps suck. All of them. Without exception. So, yes, Taimi sucks too. However, they don’t all suck to the same extent, and thus Taimi, for a brief period of time, became my preferred dating app, dethroning Feeld. Alas, this was not to…
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Why I Prefer Delta Chat To Signal
I find Delta Chat support for multiple profiles to be a killer feature. I have Delta Chat and Signal installed on my phone and my laptop. I’ve used both platforms to talk to various people. They both work fine. However, I do prefer Delta Chat because I do find it more flexible than Signal. I’m…
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I Still Cannot Recommend Feeld
Feeld used to be my go-to dating app, but no more. How the mighty have fallen! I let my subscription to Feeld lapse in mid-July. In the year prior, I spent about $270 on this app, in subscription fees and individual pings. However, they raised their prices at the end of Spring or the start…
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Dating: The Attitude Problem
To find a lasting relationship, you have to accept those relationships that won’t last. I’m a strange creature. At 53, I have a fair amount of experience at living. However, when I joined the dating world just over three years ago, I had no experience to speak of regarding dating, and the minute experience I…
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Yvonne Rorrer Declares Herself Ethically Non-Monogamous
Good for her, and for those of us who are also into ethical non-monogamy. I have never heard of Yvonne Rorrer until Stephen Colbert talked about her on The Late Show last night. I know she is a Democrat, but I don’t know more about her political positions. At any rate, it is a good…
Latest Videos From My YouTube Channel:
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Spinning Class
Finn bought a new chair for spinning class. (Decided to leave the exaggerated laughs that the AI produced, as-is.) https://youtu.be/-tvs6vVNU7c
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Doing Adult Stuff
Finn is trying to convey to Alice that he’s adulting. https://youtube.com/shorts/aoD9RDLr3qQ?feature=share
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Flushies
Finn has a new idea for a stuffed toy. https://youtube.com/shorts/37wY9292Qhc?feature=share
Latest Music:
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Stimming Is Life 012
More music to stim to! Keen-eyed observers will recognize Wish I Knew You by The Revivalists. I’ve talked about it in this article:
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Stimming Is Life 011
More music to stim to. I’ve picked the audio-only version of The Less I Know The Better by Tame Impala. There’s a video of it, however, it contains sex, so I decided to not include it in my playlist. Feel free to find it on YouTube and watch it, however!
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Stimming Is Life 010
More music to stim to. Warning: the clip for Wonderland by Caravan Palace contains imagery that some people can find disturbing.