Your Autistic Life: The Ruminations of an Autistic Enby
This is my blog. I masked my autism for the first 50 years of my life. I discovered in March 2023 that I am, in fact, autistic. Prior to this time, my life was mostly okay, but did not make much sense overall. Since my self-diagnosis, my life makes much more sense.
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The Measure Of An Enby

Am I nonbinary? The signs point to the fact that I am. When you’ve met one enby, you’ve met one enby. I realized that this motto was true even before meeting one enby as an enby on a dating app. I suspect I have met some enbies a long time ago, but I did not…
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Trans Kids Shouldn’t Have To Hide Who They Are From Their Parents
I’m sorry to report that most parents fail horribly in this matter. Recently, a trans kid was asking how to buy binders without their parents knowing about it. This request saddened me. No, not because the kid is trans. I am saddened because, as is usually the case with trans kids, the parents are not…
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I’ve Been Nonbinary As Long As I Can Remember

Looking back at my life, the signs were there. I’ve reflected on my life in the article that I link to below. However, I’m continuing the reexamination of my life prior to the realization that I am, in fact, nonbinary. I’ve now come out to three family members as an enby. This is by far…
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On The Importance Of Teaching Neurodivergence
In my view, it would allow us to handle better the friction that occurs when meshing different communication styles. As I was writing about the sources of friction between my ex-wife and I, it occurred to me that knowing about neurodivergence would have been extremely useful to us. It is unclear whether it would have…
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On The Accuracy Of ChatGPT
ChatGPT is accurately cribbing, for sure! Unfortunately, sometimes killing the messenger means killing the cook. https://spectra.video/w/iivd5FrBRMKEexyrym485r
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Dating Advice For Autistic People: Filling Out A Profile
For autistic folks, but I expect it would work for all neurodivergent folks. The first question you should ask yourself is whether you want to find someone to share your life with. Some of us really want this. However, some of us do not really want it. We’re doing it because someone else expects it…
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How Are Autistic People Supposed To Make A Living?
I explain at least part of the “making a living” problem from the point of view of an autistic person. Tie your hat. This is a long post. Now, keep in mind the proverb: When you’ve met one autistic person, you’ve met one autistic person. I don’t claim here to talk for every single autistic…
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If you don’t like it, you can just fork it, lulz!
It is not as simple as what those bozos hold. If only it were that simple. You don’t like a product, that product is FOSS, so you just fork it to make the modifications you want, and you’re a happy camper, right? RIGHT? This scenario is often a pipe dream, not always, mind you, but…
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Alcohol Does Not Reveal Someone’s “Real” Personality
Contrary to what some people hold, I do not hold this to be true. I’m going to explain why. I’m a Zen Buddhist. As such, I don’t believe that there is any real self that can be uncovered. Everything we call a self is an ever-evolving set of causes and conditions. Forcibly, there cannot be…
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National Days And Awareness Months Hurt My Mental Health
There’s a cost to your push for awareness, and it is my mental health. Let’s start with the messages about National Pizza Day or National Ice Cream Day. These are pure advertisement for special interests. They serve no other purpose than to place some class of product into the population’s mind. They have no other…
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Kava: An Antianxiety Herb
I drink kava pretty much daily, because I like its effects. What is kava? It is a herb that grows naturally in the Pacific Islands. People there have been grinding its root for centuries to make drinks out of it. Eventually, it came to the West. No, I’m not going to give you the full…
Latest Videos From My YouTube Channel:
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Screw You!
Finn is literally falling into a trap, or is it figuratively? https://youtube.com/shorts/T6Zsk6iM25A?feature=share
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Eating Your Feelings
Finn has been in the bathroom for a while, processing his feelings. https://youtube.com/shorts/gxMPQjWdqfA
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Sliced Muenster Cheese
Finn gets sliced monster for Alice. https://youtube.com/shorts/qt2cMb-qayA?feature=share
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Stimming Is Life 002
A playlist for those who like to stim to music. One thing I found that 120 beats per minute (BPM) may be close to my limit when I walk. I may have songs that go above this limit, but if they are too fast, then I just hand-dance and forget about walk-dancing. If you want…
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Stimming Is Life 001
A playlist for those who like to stim to music. I’m a late-diagnosed autistic, and yes I did self-diagnose. For the longest time I was able to mask, but my cancer lessened my ability. Yet, if I look back at my life, I was stimming years before my cancer. One form of stimming for me…
