Your Autistic Life

Your Autistic Life: The Ruminations of an Autistic Enby

This is my blog. I masked my autism for the first 50 years of my life. I discovered in March 2023 that I am, in fact, autistic. Prior to this time, my life was mostly okay, but did not make much sense overall. Since my self-diagnosis, my life makes much more sense.

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Editorials:

  • The Problem With Your Answers To My Questions

    When I complain about a product, your answer to just stop using it stinks, very badly. Once in a while, I run into problems with this or that product. Sometimes, when I cannot find a solution, I post my issue to the fediverse, hoping someone will have the answer. A lot of people don’t respond.…

  • When Shitbags Fake Disability

    This story is such a clusterfuck of deceit and incompetence that you should be as mad as I am! Tie your hat! This is going to be a really rough ride. It is not every day that watching a cooking video on YouTube sends me ballistic. Yet, here we are. I’m bloody mad, and so…

  • The Distinction Between Migrant And Expat May Not Be The One You Think

    The wrong definition will mark you as someone fighting the wrong battle. If you insist that by definition expat means white skin, while migrant means person of color, what you are engaging in is performative social justice and virtue signaling. “Look at how virtuous I am!” What you are doing actually helps no one. Moreover,…

Random Articles:

  • A Senseless Breakup As a Zen Koan

    A Japanese gate jutting out of the water.

    She put me in an impossible situation, and gave me the gift of a koan. I’m still reeling from the worst breakup of my life. Well, the worst breakup so far. There’s no telling if something even worse will come some day. It’s been almost two years, but last night a song came up and…

  • The Autistic And Allistic Minds As Gardens

    A picture of a garden. The far background are trees. Then there is a white gazebo. Some bushes. A white flower pot on a pedestal in the foreground.

    An allegory that might explain why some people discover their autism late in life. Imagine the mind, as a garden. In this garden there are all kinds of plants. In this garden, some gardeners keep the paths open. They prune this tree, and that bush, to make sure things don’t get out of hand. In…

  • I’ve Been Nonbinary As Long As I Can Remember

    Looking back at my life, the signs were there. I’ve reflected on my life in the article that I link to below. However, I’m continuing the reexamination of my life prior to the realization that I am, in fact, nonbinary. I’ve now come out to three family members as an enby. This is by far…

Latest Articles:

  • An Issue With Replies To Replies

    I cannot do anything about the problem I’m going to describe. Okay, so I write here, and the article is put out automatically in the fediverse. So far so good. You read my article in the fediverse, and you reply to my article in the fediverse. Your comment shows up here. So far so good.…

  • Dating Advice For Autistic People: Spotting Scammers

    I explain how to spot those folks who want to pull money out of your pocket. As a 51-year-old cis male, do you think I run into my share of scammers??? Yes, I do. I’ve run into a metric ton of them. I’m going to give you an overview of how to spot them in…

  • Dating Advice For Autistic People: Dating Apps

    The various dating apps out there are not all equal. I tell you what to look for. Keep in mind that I’m a 51-year-old cis man. Who is pansexual, polyamorous, and into BDSM. If you are a 22-year-old straight cis girl, your experience will most likely differ from mine. Actually, I’m sure it will. I…

  • Dating Advice For Autistic People: Filling Out A Profile

    For autistic folks, but I expect it would work for all neurodivergent folks. The first question you should ask yourself is whether you want to find someone to share your life with. Some of us really want this. However, some of us do not really want it. We’re doing it because someone else expects it…

  • How Are Autistic People Supposed To Make A Living?

    I explain at least part of the “making a living” problem from the point of view of an autistic person. Tie your hat. This is a long post. Now, keep in mind the proverb: When you’ve met one autistic person, you’ve met one autistic person. I don’t claim here to talk for every single autistic…

  • If you don’t like it, you can just fork it, lulz!

    It is not as simple as what those bozos hold. If only it were that simple. You don’t like a product, that product is FOSS, so you just fork it to make the modifications you want, and you’re a happy camper, right? RIGHT? This scenario is often a pipe dream, not always, mind you, but…

Latest Videos From My YouTube Channel:

  • Is Diatomaceous Earth Flammable?

    Google keeps throwing nonsense at me! For the record, it is not flammable. https://youtu.be/SFQ2fVP8H-w

  • Be Happy

    Ryan wants to be happy but runs into problems along the way. https://youtu.be/MZLM61gKuRA

  • Doctor Phlogiston

    Doctor Phlogiston is not at all a rip-off! Okay? https://youtu.be/mp0PV_tLsy4

Latest Music:

  • Stimming Is Life 015

    Yes music! In need to talk about the Route 66 song. Unfortunately, the electroswing mix that I picked does not exist on Spotify. I had to replace it with Nat King Cole’s version, which I love. This song is a good illustration of the fact that I think ads can be cute, even if I…

  • Stimming Is Life 14

    More music to stim to. Things of note… I believe this is a first in our series. The songwriter of Your Woman, Jyoti Mishra (@Jyoti) is in the fediverse! Do say hi, especially if you like the song! Danger Mouse is very present in this playlist. He’s a member Gnarls Barkley and Broken Bells. No,…

  • Stimming Is Life’s 80’s 001

    I know I’ve had a few oldies in my playlists previously, but this is the first time I have an entire playlist of oldies. I asked YouTube for Lube, and then it figured that I just wanted to listen to oldies. I just rolled with it.